I have a dilemma.
Well, technically, LOML has a dilemma.
But, I'm her mama, so it's my dilemma, too. Cause she keeps asking me what to do.
And I don't think I'm the best one in this situation to offer her advice on her particular problem.
See...there's a boy.
All right, all right, there's actually TWO boys.
Yeah, she takes after her mother. What can I say?
I've mentioned on here before that LOML has a boyfriend. His name is...well, for privacy sake, we'll call him Dawson.
Now, as I've mentioned before, Dawson and LOML met in the second grade. That was the year we moved here to this tiny burg.
Almost from the moment LOML walked in through the classrooms doors, he laid claim to her and has never looked back.
When she first told me of this "boyfriend" at 7 years of age, I dismissed it as a schoolgirl crush and never dreamed it was reciprocated.
Nine months later at her birthday party, I realized it just might be a "serious" relationship.
Well, as serious as 8 year olds can get.
At her 8th birthday party, he gave her a watch as her present.
Now, that's not THAT unusual, but it IS a piece of jewelry. And yes, I know his mother was the one that picked it out.
Then, when we were at the mall one time, he was there and spotted LOML from a long distance. He practically tripped over his own feet to get to her. They stood there in the middle of the mall (with both moms within viewing distance but not within hearing distance) and talked for at least 10 minutes.
Now how many 8 year old boys do you know that will even acknowledge a girls presence let alone stand there and talk to her in a PUBLIC forum?
Not many, I'd gather.
Then, this past Christmas? I knew for a fact that it was "serious".
He gave her some bling.
Specifically, a heart shaped necklace.
It's really pretty. I mean, really pretty. Except for the Hannah Montana charm. That can be removed. We've already looked into that!
Here's the problem.
There's an older boy. Let's call him Pacey.
Pacey is in the 4th grade.
Pacey is in the gifted class, same as LOML. Dawson is not.
Pacey is pushing LOML to be his girlfriend. Not in a "pushy" way, he's just really interested in her.
Pacey is cute (Dawson is just as cute).
Pacey is funny (Dawson is funny, too).
Pacey gave LOML a ring.
Yes, he gave her a ring.
And what makes it even sweeter (at least from a mother's point of view), it's too big. And looks like it was his mothers at some point.
My heart went "awwwwww".
He gave it to her yesterday at the library. I asked LOML how he knew she would be at the library since we didn't even know we were going.
"Oh, he's always prepared".
I wanted to laugh so hard. Then I wanted to cry. Then I got scared.
Cause as an adult, to me, being "prepared" basically means "having protection" and "being ready at the drop of a hat".
I know that's not what she meant and that's the furthest thing from their innocent little minds, but still, gave me a start.
I'm getting way off topic.
The dilemma LOML has is this...she likes both boys.
And she doesn't know what to do.
She's taking this very seriously, so I can't just laugh it off and say something like "I can only dream of having a problem like that these days" or something equally dismissive.
I have to take this seriously.
My first instinct is, "have 'em both". It's not like they're adults and this is a marriage situation. They're kids. Enjoy the attention while you can.
I've basically told her that she needs to follow her heart in this situation and that it's not something I can help her decide. That this is solely HER decision but that I'm here for her to talk to whenever she needs it.
What would Joey do in this situation?
Friday, March 27, 2009
I have a dilemma.